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3rd Date Qs💌 Dating: a few dates in
Easy, curious questions for someone you just started seeing. Nothing heavy, no "where is this going".
- What made you say yes to a second date?
- What would make our next date even better than this one?
💌 A few dates in?
3rd date questions that keep the talk easy
The best third date questions are light but curious: what they love, who their people are, and what they'd want to do next time. Below are all 30 questions from our 3rd Date deck, plus what to skip. Want to play them together? Pass one phone back and forth in CoupleMoment.
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Already have CoupleMoment? Open the deck Not on an iPhone? Play in your browser30 questions to ask on a third date
By date three you know the basics: their job, where they grew up, how they take their coffee. Now it's about the stuff that doesn't fit in a profile. These are the exact cards in the 3rd Date deck, sorted from easy to a little more personal.
Easy openers
- What's your go-to order at a diner at midnight?
- What's a small thing that instantly makes your day better?
- What's your idea of a perfect Sunday?
- What movie can you quote way too much of?
- Planner, or "let's see where the night goes"?
- What song do you put on when you need a boost?
- What food do you refuse to share?
- Morning person or night owl? Are you sure?
- What always makes you laugh, no matter what?
Get to know them
- Who in your life would you most want me to meet, and why?
- What's the best trip you've ever taken, and what made it great?
- What hobby did you get really into, then quietly drop?
- What were you like in high school, honestly?
- What's a low-stakes hill you'll happily die on?
- What are you proud of that you don't get to brag about?
- What's the most "you" thing in your place?
- What's a skill you'd love to pick up this year?
- What are the holidays like with your family?
- What's the nicest thing a stranger has ever done for you?
- What did you want to be when you were ten?
- What's the best advice anyone has ever given you?
- What do people usually get wrong about you at first?
- What's a tradition you'd keep no matter where you lived?
- What's something you've changed your mind about in the last few years?
About the two of you
- What made you say yes to a second date?
- What's something you've wanted to ask me since our first date?
- What's a green flag you noticed about me?
- What's on your bucket list that you'd do this month if you could?
- What's a date idea you've always wanted to try?
- What would make our next date even better than this one?
Easier to play than to remember: in the app, each question is a card you flip and pass across the table. More question lists: conversation starters for couples and questions to ask your partner.
Three decks, one for where you're at
CoupleMoment has a question deck for each stage, and all of them are free. 3rd Date Questions is the one for a few dates in.
Fun & Flirty💞 Couple: new or for years
Light romantic questions for two people who are already together.
- What was your very first impression of me, honestly?
- If we were in a movie, what genre would our love story be?
Next Date Ready✨ Just me: single, for now
A solo deck you answer for yourself before your next first date. Your answers stay on your phone as notes.
- A perfect first date for you is…
- How do you like to be asked out?
How to ask them without it feeling like an interview
- Answer your own question. Go first, or right after them. A question you also answer is a conversation; a question you only ask is a quiz.
- Two or three is plenty. One easy opener, one that gets a story, one about next time. You don't need to get through the list.
- Follow the answer, not the list. "Wait, why did you quit?" beats the next question every time.
- Leave the heavy ones for later. Exes in detail, money, and "so what are we?" can wait until you both know you want to keep going.
- End on the next date. "What would make our next date even better than this one?" is a question and a plan.
How it works in the app
- Get CoupleMomentFree on the App Store for iPhone.
- Open 3rd Date QuestionsIt's with the question decks. Coming from this page, the app can open it for you.
- Take turnsRead the card out loud, both answer, pass the phone. Stop whenever the talk takes over.
Third date questions: FAQ
What should you ask on a third date?
Ask light but curious questions that show who they are outside of dating: their perfect Sunday, the people they'd want you to meet, a hobby they dropped, what they were like in high school, and a date idea they've always wanted to try. Answer each one yourself too, so it feels like a conversation rather than an interview.
How many questions should you ask on a third date?
Two or three good ones are plenty. Pick one easy opener, one that gets a story, and one about a next date. Then follow the answers instead of moving down a list.
What should you not ask on a third date?
Skip "where is this going?", detailed questions about exes, salary and money, and anything that sounds like a test. Those fit better once you both know you want to keep seeing each other.
Is CoupleMoment a dating app?
No. CoupleMoment never finds, matches or shows you anyone. It is for two people who have already met: questions, games and date ideas for the person you're seeing, from the third date on.
Is the 3rd Date Questions deck free?
Yes. CoupleMoment is free to download and every question deck in it is free to play, including 3rd Date Questions. An optional Premium subscription adds extras, but you never need it for the questions.
Do we both need the app?
No. One phone is enough: read the card out loud, both answer, then pass the phone.
Is CoupleMoment on Android?
The app is on iPhone for now. On Android or a computer you can play the same 3rd date questions in your browser at couplemoment.com/q.
What happens when I tap Play free on iPhone?
You go to CoupleMoment on the App Store. On an iPhone, the button also copies a short link to the 3rd Date deck, so the app can pick up where you left off. The app asks before it pastes anything, and only uses a couplemoment.com/date link.