From the CoupleMoment This or That game

This or that questions for couples

Two options, one pick each, then compare. 39 fast questions that show how alike you really are.

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This or that questions for couples give you two options, like “Beach vacation or mountain retreat?”, and you both pick one at the same time, then compare. Matching picks show what you share; mismatches start the fun debates. Here are 39 this or that questions: all 30 pairs from the This or That game in the CoupleMoment app, word for word, in three rounds (lifestyle and fun, romance, food and travel), plus 9 “pick one” debates from the app’s Hot Takes and date decks. Play on one phone: pick, pass, reveal.

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This or That

Beach vacation or Mountain retreat

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Round 1 · Lifestyle & fun

13 this or that questions about everyday life

Easy openers. Say your pick at the same time.

  1. This or That

    Beach vacation or Mountain retreat

  2. This or That

    Early bird or Night owl

  3. This or That

    City life or Country life

  4. This or That

    Summer or Winter

  5. This or That

    Books or Movies

  6. This or That

    Cats or Dogs

  7. This or That

    Cooking at home or Eating out

  8. This or That

    Board games or Video games

  9. This or That

    Netflix or YouTube

  10. This or That

    Texting or Calling

  11. This or That

    Comedy or Drama

  12. This or That

    Indoor activities or Outdoor activities

  13. This or That

    Music festival or Art gallery

Round 2 · Romance

6 romantic this or that questions

Weddings, PDA and date nights. This is where couples find out.

  1. This or That

    Big wedding or Intimate ceremony

  2. This or That

    Love letters or Surprise gifts

  3. This or That

    PDA or Private affection

  4. This or That

    Planned dates or Spontaneous dates

  5. This or That

    Matching outfits or Complementary styles

  6. This or That

    Candlelit dinner or Picnic in the park

Round 3 · Food & travel

11 this or that questions about food and travel

Plan your next trip and your next dinner in five minutes.

  1. This or That

    Sweet or Savory

  2. This or That

    Coffee or Tea

  3. This or That

    Pizza or Sushi

  4. This or That

    Breakfast food or Dinner food

  5. This or That

    Ice cream or Cake

  6. This or That

    Spicy food or Mild food

  7. This or That

    Backpacking or Luxury resort

  8. This or That

    Road trip or Fly there

  9. This or That

    Tropical island or European city

  10. This or That

    Adventure trip or Relaxation trip

  11. This or That

    Solo travel or Group travel

Bonus · Pick a side

9 “pick one” debates from the app’s decks

A bit longer, a bit pettier. Pick, then defend it.

  1. Hot Takes

    Sharing food off each other's plates: romantic or annoying?

  2. Hot Takes

    A weekend afternoon nap: pure luxury or a waste of a good day?

  3. Hot Takes

    Early mornings or late nights: which is the superior time to be awake?

  4. Hot Takes

    The perfect Sunday: planned and productive, or zero plans and pajamas all day?

  5. Hot Takes

    Airport strategy: arrive two hours early or walk up just in time? Make your case.

  6. Hot Takes

    Birthday weeks: a real thing, or should a birthday stay one day?

  7. 3rd Date Questions

    Planner, or "let's see where the night goes"?

  8. 3rd Date Questions

    Morning person or night owl? Are you sure?

  9. Ready for the next date

    Coffee, dinner, or something active for a first date?

Rounds 1–3 are the 30 pairs in the This or That game in CoupleMoment. The bonus round is from the Hot Takes, 3rd Date Questions and Ready for the Next Date decks. All word for word.

How to play

How to play this or that with your partner

  1. Read both options. No explaining yet.
  2. Pick at the same time. Say it on three, or both write it down, so nobody copies.
  3. Compare. A match is a point for the team. A mismatch gets one sentence of defense each.
  4. Count your matches. 20 or more out of 30? You’re suspiciously alike.
CoupleMoment App Store screenshot: the This or That game on iPhone, both pick, then see if you match
This or That in CoupleMoment: both pick, then see if you matched.

Want the longer version? Our blog has 200 this or that questions for couples, and would you rather questions go one step further.

FAQ

Questions people ask

What are this or that questions for couples?

This or that questions give you two options, like “Coffee or tea?” or “Big wedding or intimate ceremony?”, and both partners pick one. Then you compare. It’s a fast way to learn each other’s preferences and start fun debates.

How do you play this or that as a couple?

Read a pair, both pick at the same time (out loud on three, or in secret on a phone), then reveal. Count how many you match. In the CoupleMoment app, the This or That game does the secret picking and match counting for you.

What are good romantic this or that questions?

Try “Big wedding or intimate ceremony?”, “Love letters or surprise gifts?”, “PDA or private affection?” and “Candlelit dinner or picnic in the park?”, all from the This or That game in CoupleMoment.

Is the This or That game free?

Yes. This or That is one of the 10 free couple games in CoupleMoment. Play it in your browser at app.couplemoment.com or in the iPhone app.

Beach or mountains? Find out.

Open This or That in CoupleMoment. You both pick in secret and the app shows your matches. Free in your browser or on iPhone.

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In the app: the “This or That” game (free): both pick, then see if you matched.